Monday, March 23, 2015

Knowing When to Quit & Finding Balance (SoLSC 23/31) #sol15

Sometimes the hardest thing to know is when to quit. Once I’ve committed to something, or pursued an idea, I want to see it through to the end because I wouldn’t have worked on it if I wasn’t passionate about it or felt that it was necessary. Unfortunately, life sometimes gets in the way.

Over the weekend, I had to make a difficult decision to put a pause on something that I’ve been working on for over a year (a book idea). I talked through lots of aspects around it with my husband, but ultimately, I had to make the decision to step back. Essentially: quit. (Although I prefer to look at it as just putting on a backburner for now – knowing that it might still be there when I am able to work on it again.)

Because of circumstances outside of my control, my focus and time are going to need to be on other things in the coming months, meaning I would be constantly feeling guilty for not finding the time to work on this idea, and therefore, not being fair to myself or the other person impacted by it. And I don’t want to have things hanging over my head anymore making me feel like I can’t have any downtime. And although I hope one day to find that I have the time to go back to it, at this point I have to put it on hold.

Sometimes it can be hard to say no to opportunities, and it can be even harder to say no once you’ve invested time and energy and thought into one. But when life throws bends in the road at you, you need to be able to lean into the curve, which may mean throwing something out the window so you don’t end up off balance. 


6 comments:

  1. Good for you on choosing you because sometimes THAT'S what you need. Also, this isn't a failure it's just a step that you needed to take to get to where you're going.

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  2. Love that beautifully crafted and thoughtful last line! Thank you for sharing what can be such a painful experience with us. Don't think of it as quitting but rather lightening your load so you can be full in the present in the months to come. You can return to a project but you can't relive the months ahead of you, Difficult decision but that's what being a grownup is all about!
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  3. "leaning into the curves" - that's what life is all about. You made a difficult decision, but it was thought out. You know what you can commit to right now.

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  4. Knowing when to quit and maintain balance is so smart. The book will be there whenever you feel ready to turn to it again. In the meantime...you have balance and more peace.

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  5. Knowing when to quit and maintain balance is so smart. The book will be there whenever you feel ready to turn to it again. In the meantime...you have balance and more peace.

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  6. Yes it is hard to put something on the back burner, but you also know what is more important.

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